The Advice Column: ISSUE 08

Told by a hypocrite who doesn’t listen to her own advice!

As you may or may not have noticed...I sort of disappeared for a short while. I was plummeted into an intense writing slump, combined with a complete and utter lack of spare time, leaving me to simply forget that my advice column existed, unfortunately.

Fortunately, your girl is back!

It is now the summertime freedom that I adore, and I am thriving once more. I have so much to say, and I am so glad that the time is finally in my hands to use however it is that I please.

Question I.

hi jubilee !! i got accepted into my dream school last week. after getting rejected out of highschool and spending a year grinding two jobs and over 6 classes each semester at junior college, all my work has paid off!! i got a nice scholarship and im so so excited for this new chapter of my life! however.. this might mean the next decade of my life is really devoted to school. i love learning more than anything- so why don’t i feel euphoric? is it wrong of me to mourn a future i never even wished for, just because i have the certainty of the future i’ve always wanted? there’s something sad in knowing where im going now but that feels.. wrong? i’d love to hear your thoughts <33 xoxo, soph

Dear Reader,

Firstly, I would like to formally apologize for the dishearteningly late response to your question on my end. I have fully been intending on responding punctually since the moment you sent it in; however, this issue of the column did indeed slip my mind for quite some time.

I understand so truly where you are coming from, and though this is an odd thing to be comforted by, I can assure you that it most certainly will not end exactly how you imagine.

Though the road is paved and painted clearly yellow, leading far into the distance, a shimmering emerald city awaits your arrival, but it is not what it seems. I am not saying that what it holds is even remotely negative; however, what lies behind the gated walls won’t be discovered until you finally reach it and go in.

In other words: Who really even knows? There is such comfort in simply not knowing, but it is also nice to have a general idea, a relative plan of sorts, just to sort of guide you along as you do truly wander through figuring it out. Not figured it all out, because you never will. Not really.

There’s no way to ever have absolute certainty about anything, but it is always good to find what you would have never received if not for the unexpected happenings. It could be relationships, experiences, lessons learned, or anything that would have never initially occurred if it were up to your own plan.

So, even though you are concerned at having it “too” figured out, I can assure you, life will take you by surprise, and it will be wonderful. There will certainly be ups and downs in this, as there is with everything, but please rest assured that it will all happen as it should in the end.

Lots of love,

Jubilee xoxo

Question II.

I often feel like I need to or should be in a relationship. And I’d like to be, but I’m very busy right now and a lot of things in my life are changing. How do I know when the time is right? Is there a right time? Do I seek it out or do I wait for an opportunity to come to me?

Dear Reader,

Personally, I have always believed that the best of relationships sort of happen all out of the blue. An unexpected sweep of fate, and all of that mushy stuff, though mostly because circumstances tend to take you by surprise, and situations most often tend to simply occur.

When you go out of your way to find love, more often than not, I have found that it does not tend to work well. It is almost as if an uneasy dependency forms, or an uncertainty in the whole thing. Partially because you specified that you are busy and that many things are changing in your life, maybe it is not the best time to be “searching for love.” However, if it falls in your lap, in a sense, there is nothing wrong with that.

There is no way to know if the time is right, nor if there ever really is a right time. It tends to just happen as it happens, especially as it’s simply all just chance, in the end.

There’s nothing wrong with seeking it out, necessarily, as you could ask people on dates if you find them cute. You can strike up a conversation if you see potential interest; however, don’t go into it close-minded. They don’t have to be your soulmate or the one you live and die next to, but they can always teach a lesson that you would never have learned without them.

Take a chance, especially if the opportunity presents itself, but don’t worry about having to find someone, because that will take all of the fun out of it and already set grounds for circumstantial unsteadiness.

Lots of love,

Jubilee xoxo

Question III.

just trying this as im new to it.never tried before... i don’t know much about tarot reading but im curious (I want my three card reading to be PAST - PRESENT - FUTURE.)

Dear Reader,

As I have been told to set the mood for moreso accurate tarot card readings, I lit a candle and put on my current favorite song (which I have been listening to practically nonstop as of late), Could Heaven Ever Be Like This by Idris Muhammad.

As I am not a highly experienced tarot reader, and there can be many different interpretations depending on the card, as well as your own personal circumstances, I highly recommend further looking into each card's meaning. It is always good to find your own interpretation, as you might be able to connect the meanings in a way to your own life that I never could. It is also very relative, so don’t take it too seriously if it doesn’t seem to align.

For your PAST card, I drew the ten of pentacles (reversed).

This could represent a past of instability, possibly financially or in family circumstances. There might have been past uneasiness that you are trying to work through, and have grown to separate yourself from.

For your PRESENT card, I drew the high priestess (upright).

There is a bit of mystery to this card, as it has a range of meanings. It could represent good intuition or common-sense reasoning. It might be good to take a step back and observe, and proceed in following your gut rather than overthinking the circumstances.

For your FUTURE card, I drew the nine of wands (reversed).

This card could represent stubbornness or an unwillingness to compromise or accept something. It could also represent emotional burnout. Proceed carefully, and don’t burn yourself out. Maybe let your guard down, and tear down some of the walls that might be hindering you in some way before it hurts you more. You might need to take some time to heal from past circumstances or learn a lesson in order to proceed in the best way possible.

Lots of love,

Jubilee xoxo

But IDK.

If you would like to be featured in the next issue of the Advice Column on Jubilee’s Diary, please feel free to reach out! I am sincerely open to answering anything you might have been pondering, needing a second opinion on. It does not have to be relational queries, but it can be something silly, too! Ask me about films, books, et cetera… Literally whatever comes to mind! You will not be receiving any judgment either, and the advice column always stays anonymous.

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Issues are scheduled to be published every other Sunday at 08:00 (ET). If I receive enough questions, I will make the publications weekly.

If your question was featured in this issue and you would like more insight, feel free to ask a follow-up question to be answered in the next issue!

Yes, don’t worry, Maman. Je vais très bien.

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Lots of love,

Jubilee xoxo

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